Ever wonder why we are such private people? For the most part, we go through life alone – or at most we are only willing to share deep intimate things with our immediate family. Why do you suppose that is? I think when it comes down to it, it is pride – or a fear of looking stupid – which is really pride as well.
I was jogging this morning and in between trying to catch my breath and keeping my feet moving, I was thinking about a couple areas in my life that are my major struggles – my weight and my finances. These are perhaps the two areas in most of our lives that we are also most unwilling to share details about with others.
When’s the last time you pulled out your scale and said to a friend, “Look at what I weigh!” When was the last time you put together all your financial documents and sat down with someone (other than a financial planner) and said, “Look how I am doing financially! Look where I am spending my money!” I am guessing the only time you weigh in front of someone is at the doctor’s office and you only do that because you have to. Likewise the only time you share your financial stuff is at your yearly tax appointment – and then you are probably apologetic in your lack of savings or charitable donations, etc…
When it comes right down to it, I would argue that your health and your finances are two of the more important areas of your life. If you throw out your relationship with Christ and with others, I would argue health and finances are next – and that these two areas can adversely affect all your relationships – with God and others.
We have made some poor financial decisions the past year, resulting in us owing a pretty decent tax obligation and looking towards some financial obligations that will be a challenge for us to meet the next couple years. Not a big deal in the day-to-day stuff – just those out of the ordinary things that should be planned for that there never seems to be enough money to plan for so you don’t, that type of stuff. You know what I mean.
What Stacy and I need to do is sit down and work through a plan. We have used a budget for our typical monthly expenses for quite awhile, but as I said we need to figure out the non-monthly stuff. Once we have this plan together, I wonder if accountability and encouragement in following this plan needs to be expanded beyond just Stacy and me. Do I need to be willing to share my financial nuts and bolts with others on a regular basis? Just typing this makes me cringe.
In regards to weight loss, I also need to develop a plan. I wonder if I need to share this plan with others – beyond just Stacy (if I get brave enough to even share that with her). Again, the thought of this makes me throw up a little in my mouth.
As followers of Jesus, we are called to go through life together. Finances and health issues are certainly a major part of this life. How much should we be willing to share with others? How much are you willing to share with others? I haven’t decided on the right answer yet for myself. Let me know when you figure it out!